Friday, February 4, 2011

it's not how he died...

...that made him a hero,
but how he 

From the beginning I said that this was not how Michael was supposed to die. If he was going to die young, it should have been over there. Not here, and not at the mercy of an 81 year old man. I worried that people wouldn't see him for what he really is, a hero. I constantly found myself saying to people "but he served two whole years in Iraq".  Two years that contained a few close calls, but as we soon found out, God had other plans. 

I fear that people think that Michael died in vain. I assure you he did not. His death did mean something. It meant a lot to so many people. In the aftermath, so many people came forth to testify what Michael meant to them and the out pour of love and admiration for my husband was absolutely breathtaking-astonishing-overwhelming! Michael's energy and love for life touched everyone he came across. Michael was an outstanding Marine. During one the eulogies at his memorial service on MCAS Miramar, it was either his gunny or his commanding officer, said that Michael was the type of Marine that everyone fought to have work for them. Michael has inspired me in so many ways. If I am stuck in a difficult situation, I always sit back and think "how would Michael handle this", and I typically do it his way.

So it's really not the way that he died. He didn't have that choice. He didn't get to have a talk with God before it happened to suggest where he would have liked to be killed. It's how he lived, how he treated others, how he served his country, how he loved, and how he is remember today that makes him a hero.

Oh! And I got my necklace made custom from this etsy shop.

August 2008



  1. I know there are no words that I can express to you, but I am thinking of you and sending you lots and lots of hugs! I can not even imagine your heartache. The words, "I'm sorry for your loss", don't even begin to express my sorrow for you and your pain.

    Michael lives in your heart, and he will always remain there in your safe keeping.

    Hugs a million times over!!!!

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  3. I love the necklace, it's absolutely beautiful.

  4. Ditto what Sarah said, almost verbatim! Bookmarking that shop...

  5. I've seen this necklace on Etsy, and I always think of my girls. Michael is an amazing man, and I'm 100% sure that he is soo proud of you. You are amazing!! I love you girl!! HUGS!!

    PS. AHHHH is right!! You need to attach your email addy to your blogger, so that I can just email you back when you leave comments!! :D