Saturday, October 30, 2010

one week

I went to sleep last night thinking, that when I wake up, it will be exactly one week until the one year mark. I don't know what to think of it.
I am incredibly saddened that it's going to be one year since Michael was killed.
I am angry/sad/heartbroken that it will be 365 days since I have actually seen his face. Alive. Breathing.
Words cannot describe how the pain feels.
It's breath taking. Not in a good way.
It encompasses all of my thoughts.
Most times it knocks me off my feet and I can do nothing but crawl into the fetal position and hope to God that it is taken away.

I am proud of myself at the same time though.
I can say that I survived the first year without Michael.
I did not allow the man who killed Michael to take another life. My own.
I met some of the most amazing women that I never would have met if my situation were different.
I know who my true friends are. Which for as much as I have been hurt by finding out, I am thankful for it.

I would give everything up just to have 5 minutes with him.
I miss Michael so much. I never knew I could miss a person as much as I miss Michael.
My whole body aches for him.
But, I still do get to meet him in my dreams.
I have been so lucky to have so many vivid dreams with him.
I feel him and his love around me all the time.
Those are the things I hold onto.
That get me from minute to minute, hour to hour, day to day.

But it still does not take away the hurt and pain. I don't think anything will.


Thursday, October 21, 2010

last year

Oh what I would give to have you back. 
I miss you so much Michael. 
Thank God for this month. Last year.

i wish

I wish Michael were here so I could tell him how fucking crazy you are.
I would tell him about all the things you said about me.

About us.

About him.

I wish I could tell Michael about you so he could kick your ass already.
Because someone needs to.
I wish I could tell Michael about you because I know he would laugh at how utterly ridiculous you are.

I thought that this morning.
Earlier than I would have liked to.
And I just cried and cried and cried.
Because it hit me.
That I have been left alone to deal with all of the crazies, the bad people, the people who are only out there to hurt you, all by myself.
And I can't tell Michael about it. 
He's not here to protect me from it.
To come and save me from anything that is painful.

And then I thought, he probably already knows.
And I'm pretty sure he's laughing at you.
And I am damn sure that he has his money on me if it were ever to come down to a fight.
And I am pretty sure he is pulling strings for me - some how, to protect me. 


Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Tuesday, October 19, 2010


Long time no post. I have decided that during this month, the last month that Michael was alive, I shouldn't spend much time at home. Because when I stay at home for too long, I dig myself into such a deep depression hole, not much can get me out of it. And especially this month, I don't want to give myself too much alone time.

The first week of October, I went with my sister to Manhattan. Five years ago, after I graduated high school, we went up there for a 4 day weekend. That trip was one of the best trips I had ever taken. We had such a good time, we did what we wanted and it was the first trip with my sister as adults, so that meant we both got along really well.

Leah and I on Canal Street in 2005

This trip was a little different. Yes, we had a good time. Yes, we got along. Yes, we did what we wanted. But it was different. I couldn't help but to compare my life now to the life I had five years ago. For the majority of the past five years, things have played out the way I expected them to. Except death got in the way. I shutter at the thought of another five years. Where will I be? What will I be doing? Will I even be alive then? Thoughts like that are never good because the only thing I can see when I think of five years from now is a black hole.

 First taxi ride in the city
 Central Park
We even went to go see Wicked. Which is awesome btw :)

This past week I was in Dallas, TX visiting friends of ours from the Marine Corps. These guys are like my brothers and they both recently got out of the Marines and have moved to Texas. When we were stationed at Camp Pendleton, you would most likely see one of these guys at our house. It was nice to just relax and hang out with friends who have stuck it out with me. But that the same time it was strange. Michael wasn't there. When ever we would hang out before everything happened, Michael would obviously be there too. It was like I was missing half of my whole. I didn't like it. I tried to make those feelings go away, but it was hard to hide them. I did enjoy though just sitting back and listening to them talk about the Marines and military stuff. I would jump in time to time and I was so surprised at how much I actually remembered. It was good to realize that that stuff isn't gone, it's just stored away because it's not likely that I am around Marines anymore.

Now I'm home. Dreading the upcoming weeks that are leading up to the one year mark. I have no idea how that day will be. How to even approach it. I have been having anxiety about this day ever since the day everything happened. So if you have any suggestions on what to do or stories of hitting your one year mark, please comment, email, facebook, whatever! I just need to know what to do!


Tuesday, October 12, 2010

I miss you so much. No words can describe how much I miss you. I need you. I want you.

I used to try to describe the pain, so that people can try to understand and maybe give them a better picture of what I am going through. But now I don't even know how to describe it. It has changed so much. It used to come and go. I feel like there is still a fog, but the pain comes through like a hot iron. It's such a constant feeling, I should be used to it by now, but I'm not. It's uncomfortable. It takes my breath away at times. Sometimes, when I'm doing normal everyday things, I have to stop and just lay down because it hurts so much. And sometimes, I have to stop writing because that hurts too much too.


Friday, October 1, 2010


Hope guides me, that is what gets me through the day and the night. 
The hope that after you're gone from my sight, 
it will not be the last time that I look upon you. 
                                    - A Knights Tale


So this morning I went to the mall. I found out there is finally a place in Ft. Myers that does eyebrow threading! If you don't know what that is, google it. It's much much better than waxing or plucking! After sitting in a chair for 10 minutes in pain (yeah, hurts more than waxing, but sooo worth it), I decided to go to starbucks. I ordered my skinny vanilla latte like usual. I start looking around the store and I take note of all the autumn decorations up and all their advertisements for pumpkin spice lattes. It occurred to me then that today is the first day of October. The last full month that Michael was alive. My eyes automatically welled up with tears. I didn't think it would be this hard. I knew this month was coming. Hell, I even blogged about it yesterday. But today it hit me like a train.

I couldn't get out of starbucks fast enough. I had intended to look around for some new fall clothes, but I had to get out of the mall. I don't normally get upset in public... alone. If I do, it's most likely with someone else when we are talking. But I couldn't hold it together. I tired to think of things that Michael and I did this month last year. It was filled with dog parks, photo shoots, salt water aquariums, double dates, motorcycle rides, work, school, doctors appointments, exams, papers, and halloween parties. Life, last year, this month, was perfect. But no matter how much I tried to think about the good, happy things, it didn't help. I am constantly reminded that we will never have those memories and moments again.

I couldn't make it out the mall fast enough, I had to put my sunglasses on inside before it was obvious. Once I got to my car I just broke. I needed to stop and get dog food, but I couldn't. I have a feeling this month will be hell.

I miss you so much Michael.
No star in the sky will burn longer than my love for you.
Until we meet again...